So Life’s Unfair?

So Life’s Unfair?

Fate gave you a raw deal. You were shortchanged. You deserve something better. Life’s so unfair!

Well, you’re absolutely right! You really deserve something better than what you have now. But before you go and jump off the nearest bridge, slow down and think about it. Remove emotions from the facts first. More often than not, you’ll find that it’s really not as bad as you think. All you have to do is look at it from another perspective; a calm, positive perspective.

Say you’ve gained so much weight and however much you diet, you can never get that last twenty pounds off. And when you can’t huff that overstaying fat away, you start blaming your trainer, your career, your parents (for making you drink vitamins when you were a kid), even your DNA for having fat cells! Everyone’s against you.

Or you’re stuck in a career that has become so stale, you feel moss creeping up your desk drawer. On top of that, you feel like you do all the work but the boss gets all the credit plus the top salary! That is so unfair. You become miserable and whine at fate for the wrong given you. You feel helpless and can’t do anything about it anymore.

What if you ask yourself, why do you want to be thinner in the first place? Is it for health reasons or more due to vanity? Do you think that a thinner YOU will be happier than a heavier one? Or what about work? Could you be dissatisfied with it because you don’t have a life outside it and that contributes to your stress?

So what can you do about it? As crazy as this might sound, why not accept it? Accept that you‘re plump, accept that you’re in career limbo, accept that others are better than you in your field and accept that you can’t have everything you want. Accept it and do one more thing – be practical about it. Change the way you view the problem and you’ll find it in your heart to even be thankful for it. You have food to eat that’s why you gained weight, be thankful – half the world’s population barely eat. You have a job you’re bored to death with, be thankful – you have a steady income while others are out looking for jobs. See the pattern? You can choose to alter what you’re facing now to have a positive spin.

Acceptance frees you from unrealistic expectations. And when you are free, you’ll find that new ideas can refresh your outlook – choose a new style to complement your full size instead of hiding or get a hobby to get your mind off your work sometimes.

So life’s unfair? Yes it is. Deal with it and come out a better person.