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Handling Change
Change is a very rampant and foreboding situation that inevitably happens
to everyone. For a student, there could be a change in school, classmates
and even a change of new environment. For an employee, a change of work
or even personal accounts can be possible. For a child, a change of
physical attributes and the like are in the offing.
To some people, this change brings about positive results – they
look at the situation as more challenging and exciting, and they couldn’t
wait to tackle it head-on. But there are some people who feel more than
discouraged about the situation, who are afraid to take risk and to
put their lives on the line.
When this arises, what should we do? How are we supposed to deal with
change when we are already used to what we have? How are we incline
to accept change in situations where we are already most comfortable?
According to Carol L. McClelland, Ph.D. in her article Doorway of Support
and Inspiration: Change, “When we are dumped into change, our
favorite strategy is to try to recover our lives as quickly as possible:
"Oh yes, my marriage broke up, but I'm fine now" or "I
had hepatitis for a week and the doctor ordered limited work for three
months, but I'm too busy to slow down."
This kind of thinking reinforces an escape from the real world, and
masks our true feelings – it gives us the idea that we don’t
want others to know what we are going through. This might work to some
extent, but with this kind of thinking, it would just make the situation
worse than it already is by denying yourself of the real situation.
There is actually one solution to this only, and that is to accept the
change. The answer is quite obvious and intangible, but accepting the
real change in a situation makes you feel more relaxed and calm.
This answer might seem easy, but apparently it’s not. Accepting
change requires a lot of hard work and believing that you can accept
change is the first step.
If you are having a hard time accepting change, try and talk to some
of your bosom buddies. They might help you realize that indeed change
is not only a positive thing – it gives you something to look
forward to everyday.
And for the people who are afraid to tale risks, remember that successful
people are the risk takers in the industry.
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